Wednesday, May 4, 2016


Three Things I'm Thankful For:

1. Moments filled with outrageous, uncontrollable, snorting laughter with friends who've been through hell and back.

2. Dumb, sappy movies that make you cry despite the dumbness and the sappiness. (I'm looking at YOU, Mother's Day.)

3. Unexpected, spectacular lightning and thunder storm last night while I was sitting under the eaves on my mom's deck. I had an unobstructed view of the entire night sky and it was amazing. So much power in the air.


Monday, May 2, 2016

May Day

So, so, SOOOO very thankful for:

1. This weekend's outstanding weather. 25 degrees!

2. Jenn finished writing her book! At the lake! In the bedroom down the hall, while I sat in the sun and read words on my Kindle. I love days like this. Especially since there were no mice in the cabin.

3. A great Saturday night; after supper we walked along the Vedder then celebrated her accomplishments (re FINISHING THE BOOK) by having an ice cream treat at Dairy Queen then binge watching the final 5 episodes of Poldark, going to bed at about 4 am. Don't tell me that isn't an awesome night.
So Much Green

Introducing Jenn to the Vedder

Shalom friends. 
Have a good Monday,

Thursday, April 28, 2016

Hangin out on Instragram these days...

So if you want to see some square pics, click here.

Three things I'm thankful for:

1. Evenings.
2. Buttercups.
3. Tomatoes
4. Late night conversations
5. Productive meetings
6. Half hour naps
7. Regional parks
8. Texts that end with "I love you, mom"

Sunday, April 24, 2016

My Fam

We celebrated two birthdays today; Clint's and Amy's.
First we saw this:

Which was good, with some amazing aspects, but overall, I'd give it an 8/10.

We saw the movie in Coquitlam, which is a half-way-ish point for us all to meet, then went out for dinner. (I zipped back to Surrey when the movie was over to pick up my mom.)

These are my people. And I love them so hard.

Three things I'm thankful for:

1. My fam, obvs.

2. Weekends.

3. Spring.

4. Legs that work.

5. Pastors who can preach it.

6. Opportunities to pray with and for friends,

7. Capacity to learn new things.

8. Reliable truck

9. Green things

10. Trees that smell good

11. Food that bursts with flavor

12. People with imaginations

The 21st of April. 1987

It was April 19 (Easter Sunday), 29 years ago. I was two weeks overdue, and having dinner at my inlaw's when I started feeling 'crampy'. (So for the purposes of this exercise, lets say I went into labour at 6 pm on the 19th.) Twelve hours later, with contractions a few minutes apart,we went to the hospital. (So that would be Monday morning, April 20 at 6 am.)

And it was a full twenty seven hours AFTER THAT, with both he and I in distress, he was born by emergency c-section at 9 am on April 21.

The following 5 days were spent in the hospital with him staring at me from his bassinet with a "what now, lady?" look in his eyes. And me feeling completely ill-equipped to respond maturely.

And that? Set the tone for the better part of the following 3 decades.

Happy Birthday, Clint. It was all so very worth it. You have been a gift from God, and I am so thankful He chose me to be your mom.

Love you and am proud of you, xo

Three things I'm thankful for:

1. A great dinner and visit with the birthday boy tonight, watching the sun set from the Cactus Club at English Bay.

2. I am thankful for the man my first baby has become.

3. I am thankful for days like these. They are precious.


Thursday, April 21, 2016

Surrey Bend Park

There's a brand new park in Surrey.
And it's beautiful.

Mind you, everything is amazing in the Spring.

This is a bridge.
And it's also a seating bench.

Plus, it's stunning.

And this is the view when you sit on that bench:

Three things I'm thankful for:

1. Evening walks

2. Friends who don't mind me stopping every 10 steps to take a pic on evening walks

3. My mom's back deck

4. Friends who give fill your arms with lilacs

I know I love summer with all my heart, but Spring is pretty fine too.


Monday, April 18, 2016

Being Grateful

Things I'm thankful for:

1. Two hours of full sunshine this afternoon.
2. Warm evening walk, in the neighbourhood, by myself. And it was lovely.
3. Church services where we sing my top two favorite songs.
4. Text messages from my soon-to-be daughter saying, "thanks, momma".
5. New lipstick. Haha. It's the little things.
6. I'm thankful for how amazingly sweet the air smells these days. All the Laurel, the Cherry Blossoms, the Lilacs...
7. Yams and sweet potatoes.
8. Artists
9. Nail clippers
10. To do lists that have boxes with check marks.
11. Fine point pens
12. Washing machines and dryers
13. Postage stamps
14. Adventures
15. Slow, quiet weekends
16. Baby powder


Thursday, April 14, 2016

Thankful For:

I am thankful for:

1. Families. And I love hearing stories of how they come together in crisis's.

2. Netflix. I may never go on an evening walk again. Currently binge-watching The Good Wife.

3. Kindles. I think of a book. One click later it's downloaded. Grateful that writers write.

4. Happy people.

5. Productive days at work.

6. Fun upcoming plans.

7. Instagram, and how beautiful our world is.

8. Sisters who cut hair. I've gone through months of 'bangs only' trims and I was getting embarrassed. People my age, with their wrinkled faces and poochy stomachs, do not have long hair.

Me, before work this morning.

Me, after 10 pounds and many inches was cut off, this evening.

(Haha. You can hardly tell. But it IS shorter and all thinned out. And there are layers again.)

This'll be my last season with hair like this. My head is in my sister's hands and apparently it's time for a change. As soon as the wedding is over, she's cutting it short. And dying it grey. And perming it with tiny rods. And I will stop plucking my chin. I'm going to be old enough for senior's discounts, time to embrace this phase of life.

9. Thankful for homemade soup.

10. And reading glasses.

11. And hospitals and emergency responders.

12. And answered prayer.

13.  And grace.

Shalom friends,

Tuesday, April 12, 2016

Book Club 101

Tonight was book club.

If you're wondering what a meeting looks like, keep reading.
If you're not wondering, just skip this post. Could be boring for you.

Who am I kidding? It's likely going to be boring, regardless.


Our group has between 8 - 10 enthusiastic readers.
Two of us share the joy of hosting the meetings in our homes, the others take turns providing a snack.
All of us recommend books to read. And whoever's recommendation is chosen will lead the discussion on that selection. Our only rule regarding recommendations is that the book has to have been read. A person can't recommend a book on heresay.

This month's read was The Man Called Ove.

(Which by the way, is a great book. I highly recommend it.)

For a lively discussion to take place, it helps if everyone has read the book. And it's especially helpful if everyone has read it fairly recently. Trying to recall the details of a book one read in high school makes it difficult to contribute to the conversation.

It was my turn to host.

And also my turn to provide a snack.

So I stopped in at IGA after work and picked up something suitable.

I set out the lemon cream cake, the fruit, tea things (no one is coffee drinker in our group), fill up the jug with ice water, put glasses, plates, forks, spoons and knives on the table, then put some water on to boil.

At 7 pm these seats are starting to fill and by 7:15, whoever is leading says something like, "Well? Should we get started?"

In most cases, the discussion facilitator will have printed out some background material, either of the story or the author or both, and reads it to us. It's always Very Interesting.

We move on then to suggested book club questions which are readily available on the internet.  Tonight. we used these questions as a springboard to a two hour conversation about Ove, his neighbours, his marriage, his relationships and as per always, how this book mirrored incidents and people in our own lives.

After the discussion winds down, we talk about the following month. Book recommendations, date options, and so on. Typically by 9:30, most meetings end.

And that's it.
It's one of my favorite nights of the month.

Three things I'm thankful for:

1. Good books.
2. Writers of good books.
3. Friends who like to talk about books.


Monday, April 11, 2016

Time. And How It Heals.

Remember that time on June 23 when I had a spot removed from my face?

(That's the spot, right beside my tear duct.)

This is what my face looked like 8 hours post op.

And this is what my face looked like most of last summer...

And then I stopped taking close up pics of my face.


Are you in the midst of a Time-Will-Heal-This situation? Is the wound still open? Is the blood still seeping? Have the stitches started itching? Are scabs forming? Is the bruising lightening up? What part of the healing process are you currently in?

Know this.

Time does heal most things.

When my marriage ended it was predicted that I would grieve one year for every 5 years that my ex and I were together. "They" were right.

And I was told it would take 2 years for my face to heal. And I'm going to believe "they" are right about this too.

There is nothing I can do to speed up the process. Healing takes time.
But I can stop taking pics of my scar site and obsessing over it. I can do what was recommended, and that is to wear sunscreen on my face when I'm in the sun. I can gently massage the area once a day for a few minutes. And I can wear make up so that while the healing is taking place, I can carry on about my business without worrying that everyone is looking at it and wondering what happened.

Because that's the thing with healing. A tiny, indiscernible amount of healing takes place every day. It's not like you go for 729 days with a gaping wound that is still leaking blood to completely healed on that magical day at the end of 2 years. Nope; every day along the way, it gets better.  (And if it's not - then go back to the professionals to find out what needs to be done to get back on track.)


All that to say, by way of encouragement, is that you will recover from the pain of divorce, the emptiness of a broken relationship, the grief of a death, the wounds from surgery, in time.

Ten months later, the surgical site is still healing.
Without make-up it's more obvious, so really, only me and God know how large that surgical site bump is and where the zig zag scar starts and ends.

And if this is as good as it gets? I'm OK with that. 85% healed is an "A".


Three things I'm thankful for:

1. Time

2. Smart people

3. Make-up

4. Friends who are willing to watch TV in my basement with me, but text first to determine the dress code.
Her: Are we were comfy clothes?
Me: Yes.
Her: Bras?
Me: Mine is not currently on, but I didn't want to expose you to that so I was planning on pulling the girls up out of my pants and have them hoisted to where they belong before you get here.
Her: If you must.

5. Friends who set aside your favorite eggs for you at their Easter celebration and give them to you two weeks later when you go out for dinner. This? Is love.

6. And I am especially thankful for hot sunny Saturdays.
This is where I sat while I did laundry.

Shalom friends,